Flexibilty

 Sometimes I feel that flexibility is very important. For example is guiding young people nowadays, or i said our juniors, many times if we try to be more relief to them but not always push them, they will do better than what we expected.
   Should say like this, it means that when we tend to not to remind him/her the task, he/she will do much more better and more efficient, but if we keep on urging them the dateline is coming and they do no better, the outcome is not good at all. I discover this in college, Boys' Brigade, Dance and even some other places.
  For example, when I am leading the Suria Boys, many times I tend to keep on reminding them to hand in this hand in that, let's say, registration form, but end up just 1 or 2 handed in out of 7, I don't know why, but when I tend to leave it and let them have to automatic and try not to push, the effect is nicer than when I push them, but of course, it cannot be continuing like this, they need guidance. For example, when dueling with boot camp assignment, I didn't ask them :"hand in a wei, next week deadline liao, you haven't start ar??" , but I will just say:"so when is the dateline? you know right? okay, as long as you handed me in then ok, remember ya!" full stop, if we tend to be gan jiong, it will give them pressure and you won't get what you want at the end.
   In dance class too, my instructor won't give many advise, but just continuing practicing, less talking and pushing make us catch the dance step more clearer. In college, the more lecturer concern on our dateline, the less efficiency we have sometimes, seriously.
  So coaching and guiding sometimes is like playing kite, you have to soften your hand let it fly, when its too high, hold it back. same thing to guiding young people, they are just like kite, they need freedom and don't want us to nag them everyday, so we just soften our hand and let them fly, do whatever they want, what I want is the outcome, but when they were wrong and got problem, then we hold it back, stop the kite from flying and pull it back abit.... ;D